a podcast and date recap and some all caps kind of sentences

Hey there peeps! (ew, did I really  just say that? oh well. I'm leaving it.) I haven't blogged in a while. My bad. Or probably Cody's bad. Why am I the only one who blogs, anyway? Is it because I'm a girl? How sexist are we?

Here is the most recent podcast... as of like, a week ago. (sorry sorry sorry! But honestly, if you "like" our facebook page, you don't have to worry about waiting such a long time for them! Just throwing that out there!) Click here --> PODCAST!!!!!! (that was for you, grandma and grandpa. p.s. if you click the BOYS TALK ABOUT FLIRTING you can get to the other one. sorry for the no arrow confusion... arrows from now on!)

The latest podcast featured a guest podcaster who was none other than WEDNESDAY NIGHT GIRL herself! Brook Adkins! Basically, she comes on the show and refutes everything Cody has ever said about her, which I thought was pretty awesome. I want you guys to listen to it, so I'm only going to tell you my favorite part, and then I'm going to talk about me! (ha!) Remember that story where Cody, under his breath, asked Brooke out, and she kept talking and didn't acknowledge it at all? We decided that she probably didn't hear him, and gave her the benefit of the doubt. Only it turns out that she DID hear him, and ignored him because she was in the middle of a sentence, and she thinks "what are you doing this weekend" is the worst question in the world. But she did want him to try to ask her out again... so it's too bad he gave up on her and she got an old man boyfriend. Oh, the horror!

In other news, all about me, and my dating life that is cool, would you like to hear a date recap? Everyone say "yes"!

The gist of the thing is this - picnic, chocolate covered strawberries, bridge, bench, and sunset + random fireworks on a mountain. oh, and then The Dark Knight Rises because... duh.

Samples of Conversations on a Date Recap

Alex: I was trying to think of food that you have on picnics, like when we were little? So I brought Sunny D.

Madeline: Yeah, that's a no brainer.

Alex: I'm actually allergic to bees, but I don't know what will happen when I get stung.  You may have to take me to the hospital.

Madeline: Really? Can we test it out?

Madeline: I was debating on wether to wear nice shoes or hiking shoes. I almost wore nice shoes, because I didn't really feel like hiking. But I settled on Toms.

Alex: Last time you wore those, you fell down.

Madeline: Exactly. So, maybe we shouldn't hike.

Alex: It's short, we'll just go to a bridge!

Madeline: (Standing on road) Is this the bridge?

Alex: Right here?

Madeline: Yes.

Alex: ... No.

Madeline: Oh, this bridge is actually kind of cool! There is a little river! People's initials are carved in it!  A cafe rio cup is in the water!

Alex: Oh, that was probably from Cody. The birds will make a nest from it!

Alex: Let's race sticks down the river. You have to be really careful which stick you choose, it needs to be really aerodynamic.

Madeline: (breaks stick off branch.) Let's go.

(They drop the sticks off the bridge, Madeline's gets stuck on a rock. Alex's disappears.)

Alex: Ohhhhh... there are too many sticks and rocks for them to get through. It's a dam.

Madeline: I think I won.

Alex: Do you want to go out with me?

Madeline: Where?

Alex: ...To the zoo.

Madeline: Umm....

Alex: No, like go out, like dating...

Madeline: Oh, so like, me and you? You and me? No one else? 

Alex: ... yeah...

Madeline: Sure.

And that's your date recap in some snippets of conversation. Boring? Haters back off.

this is what the boys said...

Here are the boys answers to my flirting questions, and their own take on flirting! It's quite hilarious!

BOYS TALK ABOUT FLIRTING

In this episode, you get to hear sweet nothings from Cody's best friends: Alex, Riley, and Luke. Yeah, guys, I know, that's the Alex that I've been going on dates with. They start out by introducing them, blah blah blah. Alex gives a date recap, so I feel like I don't have to! He says that we went to a drive in movie, but there was no canoodling like Cody was hoping, although we did hold hands. This is all true!   Way to go, Alex! 

Afterwords, Cody brags about himself for a bit, but Alex sets the record straight, pointing out that Cody is in fact, NOT 6'3" and 210lbs. So. That's embarrassing Cody. You're like, one of those online people who lies about everything. Just kidding everyone, he only fibbed a bit. He's pretty normal. 

So, they read my blog. Cody agrees that flirting should come naturally, and Alex points out that it's a lot easier to flirt with people you don't like! I agree. Cody reads something that he sent to Wednesday Night Girl to ask her to podcast with him this week. (Are you guys so excited? Wednesday Night Girl! An actual love interest of Cody's! She'll be talking to you all!) Riley talks about lowering the stakes to make himself more comfortable with flirting. Love that, Riley! Flirting does not mean commitment! Luke says he doesn't get nervous until he gets to know people more. This is semi-normal, I guess... Cody agrees that there is more at stake. Everyone agrees that confidence is really attractive! You guys, seriously, all you need is a smile and some eye contact, and you can get someone a little interested. They all laugh as quietly as possible, and have a hard time talking. I can only imagine how this was going down in Cody's basement...

So, answers to questions.

1. Cody notices that he just answered this question! Do boys respond to confidence in the same way girls do? The answer is obviously, yes. Cody then brags to Alex about having a better relationship with me than he does. Much taunting laughter at this jibe.

2. What makes you feel comfortable enough around a girl to flirt with her? Alex says when girls give him good signals, he feels comfortable. Cody agrees. Riley likes it when girls start up conversations. Cody talks about a girl who flirts with him by bringing up deaths. Luke things there should be attraction already, that way, he knows he likes her and he goes after it! Luke, you are so brave! Love it. Riley thinks you should keep flirting if you like a girl, Cody really likes that. Alex taunts Luke about a girl named Alexis who he used to like. Luke defends himself by saying he doesn't like her anymore. Much boyish sniggering behind the microphones. They blow each others noses.

3. What makes you think that a girl is flirting with you? (I thought this question was hilarious. As if girls are ever really flirting with them...) Riley likes it when girls bring up things like, "we should go boating sometime!" Cody labels that "probing". Alex agrees that "call back" is important. When girls remember what you have said before, that's good. Luke thinks what I said about eye contact is good! Thanks Luke! My mom told me to say that. Ha ha. Jk. Cody thinks it's easier to tell when girls aren't flirting with you. That's because they never are... as I mentioned before. (Sorry, is this getting mean? You know I don't mean it.)

4. What do you consider flirtatious? Yes that is a real word. Riley is all about light-heartedness, physical contact like soft brushes of the arm... Cody misquotes me by saying that I basically run into people on purpose to flirt. This is untrue. 

5. What can girls say to get you more interested? Cody thinks when girls joke about kissing they are flirting. Cody, Cody, Cody. Luke doesn't like super forward girls, but still finds it flattering. Cody likes forwardness. Riley thinks compliments and opportunities to hang out are good. Cody likes when girls pretend to like what he likes. (They're desperate, Cody). Alex thinks nothing. When he likes a girl, he likes her. This is good information to know? yeahhhhh. Riley needs more time to decide if he likes someone. Alex is the type to observe them from a distance and then get to know them. It's all good, I'm used to people spying on me.... ha. 

so, you know, POST YOUR COMMENTS ON FLIRTING! FOLLOW THE BLOG! FOLLOW ON TWITTER! LIKE ON FACEBOOK! 

We love dating. So if you date, we love you. Yeah, we dropped the "L" word on ya. 

They also role play... talking about androgynous names and flirting with each other. It's like... pretty good. I guess you'll just have to listen to it. Enjoy!

Just FYI. Flirting 101.

Hey everyone! Today's post is kind of cool, because Cody is going to be podcasting at the SAME TIME that I am posting this. This is happening because on Saturday I sped all the way home to podcast with him, and then the computer deleted every amazing thing I said, and I had to go to my other job. So. Without further ado...


This podcast is about FLIRTING!


(I'll do a date recap later.)


Good ole Wikipedia said flirting is "a sexual activity involving verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person." So, that's cool.


For me, body language is the most important part. My love language is Quality Time, (we will podcast about that another day!) so I think that's why body language would matter to me. The proximity of the person is really important. When I am flirting with someone, I am usually close to them in some way. Standing close, arms touching, whatever. I think in person flirting is a lot easier than over text or Facebook or what have you... mostly because of one thing. Eye Contact. It's so much easier to connect with someone if you can look into their eyes. Especially if you can't be standing close to them with your arms touching. You see your guy over there talking to some other girl? Catch his eye, and look away. BAM. Love connection. 


Ha ha, just kidding. What do I really know about flirting? If you ask me, flirting is just something that happens naturally. It is not a conscious effort that I make to stand closer to someone. My roommates used to always tease me because I would unconsciously slide closer and closer to the person I liked on the couch. You know, start on one end, end up right next to him? But I didn't mean to. Naturally we are just attracted to people, and we flirt with them. So, my advice is to not think about it. Put yourself in the other person's area or space, and let it come naturally from there. Make eye contact! Be yourself. You can't feel confident in someone you don't know, so don't act like someone different. Girls respond to confidence, and I'm sure it's the same for boys?


Speaking of which, hey boys! (There are some boys podcasting with cody today on a sort of "panel" if you will.) So here are some questions.


1. Do boys respond to confidence just like girls? 
2. What makes you feel comfortable enough around a girl to flirt with her?
3. What makes you think that a girl is flirting with you?
4. What kinds of things to you consider "flirtatious"?
5. What kinds of flirtatious things can girls say to you to get you even more interested? ha ha.


So there you have it! When the boys have spoken, I will post the podcast on this blog. Leave comments about flirting! What do you think about it? How does it really work?


Now go, ask someone out! Hold their hand, because that's always fun. ;)

Stalkers! Bad Dates! Flirting Fails!

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Alrighty! Time for a recap of our latest podcast. This episode was actually recorded quite a few weeks ago, but our second half interview segment bailed on us which was so totally lame. (I mean, really.) So Cody finally found a chance to use the first half, and that was when I was gone! To make it seem like I was really there! Only it may have been confusing to some of you, who were sure that my next date recap would be about Alex and not some ridiculously boring person... but there you have it. Those were the days of early summer. So, let's recap this thing.

My date with Spencer.

It was alright. It was a blind date, set up by my little sister who thinks I'm a dating failure. (You wait, Olivia. I haven't hit my peak yet. But it is coming! Oh, it is coming.) So, he picked me up, told me that being an Elementary School Teacher was lame (basically...), and drove me to a little place we like to call Boondocks. A.K.A. dumbfamilyfuncenterthathasbadfoodandstuff. We ate pizza, talked about music, and then played arcade games. This was all... fine. But what was annoying was the fact that he wasn't ok with me winning ANYTHING. Now, I'm not a competitive person, but it is a little annoying when someone won't even have the grace to congratulate me on doing well on something. Instead of saying, "Oh, ha ha, I let you do that." ExCUSE me, but no you didn't, mister. I mean, me scoring an extra point in air hockey isn't the end of the world. So, that was that, and we went home, and I decided to never see him again.

Cody's story from this week revolved around him choking when trying to ask Wednesday Night Girl Out. Speaking of which... you'll be hearing from Wednesday Night Girl herself someday in the near future! Get excited! Basically, they have a class together on Wednesday night, and Cody sits next to her and compliments her. They talk and flirt up a storm. And then while packing up to leave class, Wednesday Night Girl is talk talk talking away and Cody blurts out, (in a whisper) (can you blurt in a whisper?) (well, he did.) "What are you doing this weekend?" And Wednesday Night Girl either did not hear him, or decided to ignore it... the jury is still out on that one. But I say didn't hear it!

After our date recaps and flirting fails, we talked about Stalkers!!! Stalkers, in my opinion, are people who are "emotionally invested in something that hasn't happened yet." So, the best way to not be a stalker is to observe signals, and keep control of yourself! Come on, people! Cody's advice to girls on how to help a boy not become a stalker (a.k.a. reject them kindly) comes in three steps.

1. Tell them, "No thanks, why don't you ask someone else?" When asked on a date you don't want to go on.

2. If they try again, say, "I don't like you that way."

3. If they try one more time, say, "Get away from me, you creepy head!" (Or something like that? I forget how Cody words things sometimes.) 

Basically ladies, be honest! And boys, read signals! 

In fact, EVERYONE read signals!! DUH!

podcasting tomorrow! Get ready!

a special post for you all

It's been a while since I graced you all with my dating guru presence, and that is because I'm on vacation! So I thought I'd leave you with my most popular post on my personal blog which just happens to be on dating! Enjoy! Hope you had a wonderful fourth of July!

Mixed Signals

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Hello all! So, I was getting ready to go on a date last night (an hour before I had to) (because I was bored to death) (I miss living with best friends) (why not try on every color of lipstick I own?) and it just got me pondering. On that thing we call dating. Now, I know I don't talk about dating a lot on this blog, and when I do, it's funny first kiss stories or subtleiwasfeelingbitteratthemoment posts. Whatever. It's the title of this post. It's the fact that I feel like all of us 20-something singles out here are getting so many mixed signals from everyone around us about HOW we should date. I haven't seriously dated anybody in a while... I've had a few flings here and there this year. Which caused a huge part of me - HUGE I tell you - to rethink my whole approach to dating. Earlier this year I realized that I am the girl, that one girl, the girl the boys think they can just call up whenever. Not in THAT way, people. I mean, the way that they don't have to ask me out on official dates. They can just hang out with me all casual like and make me like them without any real effort. They were right, of course. I'm far too easy going. Because you hear all those stories of girls freaking out over this or that and boys hating them, and I think somewhere along the line I decided, you know what? I'm just going to not be that girl. I'm going to be the easy going you-don't-have-to-worry-about-me-because-i'm-not-worried-about-you kind of girl. And then I realized that has to stop. So it did. I'm still easy going, but I'm not settling for no effort. I need a DATE, guys. I'm WORTH a date, guys. Or two.

And then there's the whole, you know, marriage thing. My friends are getting married. It took long enough, but it's happening. But they all tell that story. The one where they, "weren't even looking to get married, and there he was! He just showed up, and everything fell into place!" What do you MEAN you weren't even LOOKING? How did you see him then? How did he get there? He just randomly appeared and you loved each other? It's THAT easy? I tried to "stop looking" once (not that I'm ever looking really, more, perusing) and I got a whole lot of NOTHING because the boys were like, why is she looking over there at that fallen tree?

So I can only assume that married people forgot how dating really works. And that's why no one can pinpoint the secret to making it happily ever after.